Forgive yourself. Do it now. Then move on.

I keep finding that as I write a weekly newsletter I should take my own thoughts into consideration. I often struggle to ease up on myself after a mistake or failure of any kind. So, as you read on at Practice Optimism, please know that some of the topics I choose are not necessarily strengths, but things I am working on too. They make me think as much as I hope you do when engaging with my writing.

I too like the idea of certain ideals or am rejuvenated by an inspirational quote about discipline or conquering problems. Maybe inspiration and conquering are possible for some people and not others, but I have yet to meet anyone who has completely won that game. It’s always an imbalanced flow. If you have an extra second, read that again. Life is not a balance, it’s an imbalance. It’s always an imbalanced flow.

I want to work more to make more so I have to see family less and vice versa (not all careers are this way). I want to exercise more so I play video games less. I want to read more so I am on social media less. I know I could fill this page with these short, fun comparisons. There is usually a better option between the things we are choosing between. Sometimes we choose the “right” option, but it’s also okay and healthy to indulge in the “wrong” options sometimes too. Instead of focusing on how much you messed up by eating a donut instead of a salad, enjoy the donut and eat a salad next time. Forgive yourself. Then move on.  

In my opinion, that decision-making process is just a disciplined as the person who is miserable from eating rabbit food for every single meal. Take the time to understand what sets you up for success. In the simple donut example, think about what that donut might enable you to accomplish. Does one donut per week, or one moment of relaxation, create a discipline within you to eat 90-100% healthy during the rest of the week? Does one moment or day of relaxation contribute to the discipline you practice for the other 6 days in your week?

Discipline is learned behavior and it takes repetitions over a period of time. As life flows, constants reveal their temporary nature. When we pause, make a mistake, or commit to the relaxation we need to remain disciplined, acknowledge the moment and move on to the next task when you can.

As I mentioned, I still appreciate a good inspirational quote, especially on a Monday. Here are a couple of my favorites:

“You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” ~ MARCUS AURELIUS

“I can resist anything except temptation.” ~ OSCAR WILDE

“The first and best victory is to conquer self.” ~ PLATO